Perhaps me having official diagnoses of both autism and ADHD may finally help my mother come to terms with also being both autistic and ADHD. I have known for way past a decade that my mother is autistic and as I began to put the ADHD pieces together I quickly realised that my mother is most definitely ADHD as well, some years ago, maybe around ten. I have long suspected that my mother has herself for some while known that she is autistic but due to profound reasons relating to her lack of personal development thhrough life has been unable to see it as a positive but rather a negative, carrying feelings of shame and fear. 

Perhaps there will now be a smoother path ahead for her?